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I am selfish

I am selfish.

Yes I know that sounds bad. But selfishness is an important part of self-improvement. You cannot improve yourself without being selfish.

If you want to improve yourself you have to make time for yourself. Maybe that time cuts into your time with friends or family. Maybe you sacrifice down time by doing extra work towards your self-improvement goals. Sometimes there are things that need to be done that you end up putting off because it gets in the way of your "ME" time. All of these things can be heavy on you but you have to understand that if you want to get better you have to sacrifice.

Now, I am not saying you should neglect those around you. Not at all. The ones around you need to be on board with your goals or there can be friction. That is really the hardest part. If you have a goal and a plan to achieve that goal and the will to actually do the work necessary, you still need support. However, a lot of times it is hard for others to understand what you a trying to do. They may feel neglected and hurt by the fact that you are putting so much into yourself.

What if the people around you don't like how much time you spend on yourself? What if the people around you don't have the same ambition as you? What if people around you discourage you from doing the things you want to do to improve yourself? Do you give up on your goal to become better?

NO!

If you want to get better at anything you need to put in the effort. No matter what it is. You should never feel guilty about trying to improve yourself.

I am a natural procrastinator so I really don't have a problem putting things off. I sometimes sacrifice sleep to get a couple extra miles in or to get my full workout done. When I have time for me I absolutely use it. Even if that upsets people around me.

My goal everyday is to be better than I was yesterday. To do that I have to be selfish. I take care of the things that I need to take care of. I don't neglect my family. I do care about the feelings of those around me. But when it's MY time......it's MY time.

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